Haves and Have Nots – My Perspective
I hear this inequality crap all the time. They have and I do not have. They have more money, they have a nicer home, they have a nicer car, clothes, and on and on. Since the beginning there has been some that have more than others. Since the beginning there have been those who are jealous of others who have. They envy, they covet, that feel those who have should not have so much. There will ALWAYS be the rich, the poor and those in between.
I am 60 yrs old and this is how I was raised and how I feel about it all. When I was a kid we had what we needed. Not all we wanted. We knew some were poorer an we knew there were some that were richer. But what do you call poor and what do you call rich? Ever heard of rich people being unhappy, committing suicide? Sure you have. And yes the same for the poor. But if being rich is the end all – be all why do rich people seem unhappy? Because the money can not buy your happiness. But lets forget the really rich for now.
If you look where we live some would think – you guys are rich. Compared to what – where you live? Guess what, some look at where you live and think you are rich. Because there will always be someone richer than you and someone poorer than you. Get over it. We see those who live in Triple Crown and think wow they must be rich when in fact maybe they may be barely getting by with a $5K to $10K house payment. If they lost their job they would be on the street in 90 days or less.
Personally: We started out in a 25 foot trailer that had no AC and leaked. We rented it in a dumpy trailer park. We moved to an apartment, then to another, then another and then finally to renting half a house (duplex). WOW we are living the life now !!!!I ONLY had to work two jobs to get by. We moved for a small factory job to a bigger factory then to another state with no job. Then to a medium factory. Then to a Government job (the Army). We moved when and where they made us move to. We did that for 20 years. Many of those years we had no family around.
We retired with a nice income, healthcare and bought a house for the first time in 20 yrs and started a 30yr mortgage at age 50. We cut that down to a 15 yr mortgage, dropped the interest rate in half and are making large payments. Going to may off a 15 yr mortgage in 5 years.
Some of you who have had your home for years and stayed in one location with family, friends, same job and may even be close to paying off your home. I am happy for you. Great, you earned it and worked hard for it. You may have started with almost nothing and worked your way up to where you are now. Are you the poorest – nope. Are you the richest – nope. But you are where you are on your own accord.
Some of you who have not – do not complain. You are exactly where your efforts have led you. In my opinion we get out of life what we put into it. Many are in bad situations. Were you born into them? If so how old are you now? How much effort have you put forth to improve your situation? Or maybe you are satisfied living they way you do. I do not know, nor really care.
What I do know is this. We have worked hard to get where we are. We have sacrificed to get where we are. And if you are jealous in any way shape or form – too damn bad. I know of people who had it pretty damn good and they blew it due to drugs or alcohol. I know of people who have been give many opportunities to start over and to make a huge leap forward and chose to go right back to the same old crappy life they supposedly ran from. Your life is yours and my life is mine. I do not envy another and if anyone envy mine that is their problem.
In closing – never ever look down your nose at me because of what we have and what we have achieved. If you have more than we do, I am happy for you. If you have less than we do then I am happy for you. I am not here to bail you out and you are not here to bail me out. And if you think “you got it made” guess what, my wife and I worked hard to get to what you call “having it made”. We paid our dues, we worked hard, we sacrificed, gave up and had some really rough times together. So if your situation sucks, and you expect me to help you, or to sympathize with you, please feel free to think that. But do not hold your breath. We planned for this for a very long time. Note I said “we planned”. Did you.